Rest for the Weary {My Struggle with Rest} - Joyful Thrifty Home
Jan 312014

Rest for the Weary My Struggle with Rest

Do you ever feel tired and worn out? So tired that you struggle to muster up the strength just to get out of bed in the morning. So worn out that simple tasks feel like enormous chores. So completely exhausted that it is hard even to think coherently. In a nutshell,  you feel weary to the point of being physically, mentally and spiritually drained.

There could be many reasons for feeling like this. You might have a lot of responsibilities piling up making it seem impossible to ever see the end of your mile long to do list. You might be trying to navigate a new season in life and are unsure how to figure it all out. You might be dealing with some sort of loss; a dream or maybe even a loved one. You might be struggling through some sort of illness. Or maybe like me, you are simply struggling to get adequate rest.

Whatever the reason you are struggling, I want you to know that there is hope. It might not come in the way you expect, but there is rest for the weary.

My Struggle with Rest

I have shared a few small glimpses into some of my struggles but have been hesitant to go much deeper. I’m not sure if it’s because I don’t want it to look like I am fishing for sympathy or if I am just fearful of what others might think. However, I can’t pretend that I am perfect or that everything in my life is perfect. No one is perfect. Everyone has struggles. So if being a little more open about mine can help someone than that is what I want to do. I want to use this as a way to bring hope and encouragement to those of you who need to know that you are not alone.

For the past couple years or so, I have felt increasingly tired and worn out. It has become a major frustration for me because there is no, or at least I thought, tangible reason for it. I simply couldn’t understand why I was unable to get the physical rest I needed…and it seemed to be getting worse.

The Downward Spiral

I often go to bed and wake up feeling even more exhausted. Even if I sleep through the night, I rarely feel well rested. I have constant headaches. Most of the time, my body is so physically tired that I have to force myself just to do simple things like laundry and dishes. Frequently, I am mentally drained to the point of not always being able to think clearly. I even struggle with making time to read my bible or seek the spiritual refreshment my soul needs.

This lack of rest has caused me to fall downward into and vicious cycle. I am not eating regular meals, causing my body to not get the proper nourishment it needs which exacerbates many of my physical symptoms. Inefficient sleep and nourishment also contribute to a lack of mental clarity. Neglecting to make time to read my bible and pray leaves me feeling spiritually dry. Also, because I feel so exhausted, it is hard to keep up with a normal routine. I pour what little energy I have  into keeping my home clean and dinner made for my husband but other than that I struggle to find the motivation to do much of anything.

The Breaking Point

About a month or so ago, I came to a breaking point. It had gotten so bad that I was anxious just to go to sleep at night for fear of what I would feel like in the morning. I felt so physically, mentally and spiritually drained that I began to give in to the lies that made me feel isolated and alone. I felt like I was fighting a losing battle and the strength to keep fighting it on my own was dwindling.

At one point, I laid in bed in tears unable to express to my husband what was wrong. I just didn’t have the words to explain it. He knew I wasn’t sleeping well, but for the most part I tried to hide the toll it was taking on me. Finally, I drifted off to sleep praying that God would show me a way out of this dark period of exhaustion.

Restoration and Healing

As I began to wake up, I realized that the losing battle was that I was trying to do it alone. The fact was, I could not fight it on my own. It became clear to me that I have people I can turn to who do care about me. More  importantly, I have a God who wants nothing more than for me to look to him for comfort and rest. How had I missed that before?

I felt a sense of peace wash over me and the lies were replaced by a beckoning whisper to come to Him. I began to think of verses that helped bring peace to my weary soul. Specifically Matthew 11:28 that says;

“Come to me who are weary and burdened and I will give you rest.”

The heaviness began to lift and I finally saw hope. Hope that I would not be stuck in this place forever. Hope in knowing I am not alone. Hope that the process of healing could finally begin.

Moving Forward

I can’t say that things have completely turned around but it’s a work in progress. I know I still have a long way to go but I also know that I am not alone and that has made a huge difference. I am working on getting back into a routine and most importantly including regular time in prayer and bible study. Ultimately, I am working on getting myself healthy; physically, mentally and spiritually.

As I work through this process, I want to share more with you about how to find rest when you are weary. So I am working on making this a mini-series. The next part will be about physical rest. Then I will write some more about spiritual rest. Lastly, I will have a list of helpful resources. I sincerely hope that you will find this refreshing and useful.

UPDATE: I still plan to move forward with this series but have come to the realization that God still has things to teach me before I do. I know that I don’t have to have it all figured out to share my story with you but I feel God telling me to wait a little longer. I truly want this series to be beneficial for you and so I don’t want to jump too far ahead and miss something important. Please know that as I wade through the waters of this struggle, I am working to be purposeful in learning the lessons God is teaching me so that I can share it with you in His timing.

Do you ever feel worn out and weary?

What has been most helpful for you to overcome your weariness?

Image Map

About the Author

Ashley has been happily married to her husband since July 2010. She is a thrifty girl at heart with a bit of a crafty side. She is also a once disaster in the kitchen turned aspiring home chef. She loves coffee and herbal tea and is a self proclaimed library nerd. But her real passions are encouraging others in their Christian faith and to show people that it is possible to live well even if you are on a tight budget.

Check out Ashley's Website: Joyful Thrifty Home
You can also follow her on; Facebook, Twitter and Pinterest

  16 Responses to “Rest for the Weary {My Struggle with Rest}”

  1. My exhaustion is a physical ailment which I cannot overcome. I will be looking forward to your resources and discussion as I could use this kind of help. Thanks for being willing to share so openly. god is good!

  2. Oh Ashley, I so completely understand! Between fighting chronic fatigue and chronic insomnia for the past 7+ years, I have struggled so much with the concept of REST. I’d love to chat with you further about this, over email perhaps. Have a blessed Friday!!
    Elizabeth @ DogFurandDandelions recently posted…Comment on Corrie ten Boom (Heroes of the Faith) by Let’s Chat: Heroes of the FaithMy Profile

  3. My RA causes severe fatigue if it is not under control, so I can say from experience that, fatigue is really the most miserable and frustrating feeling ever. I remember thinking to myself at one point that fatigue is worst than pain. I feel for you and am praying for you through this season. And I am so glad that you have decided to do this series. I’m looking forward to the next posts!
    Jane @ Devoted Sonriser recently posted…How (I’m Learning) To Get Over Soul-SicknessMy Profile

    • Thank you Jane! I am glad to know there are people who understand what it is like. Sometimes it’s hard to explain all that comes with having chronic fatigue to someone who has never experienced it.

  4. Praying for you!
    Kate @KateMovingForward recently posted…Questions About Modesty and FitnessMy Profile

  5. I can sympathize with how you feel. I suffer from depression/anxiety/bipolar. Currently I am without meds. When my depression kicks in I don’t want to do anything. I work full time during the week and try to use my days off to catch up on housework. But there are days I am just so tired. Fatigue is part of depression as well. You just have no energy. But the worst part is that you don’t even care. This weekend has been a total bust for me. I have gotten nothing done except 1 load of laundry so I will have clean scrubs for work. I have no appetite. I can’t sleep. (It’s almost 11pm here and I’m still waiting for some antihistamines to kick in so I can fall asleep.)

    My depression also causes problems with attention span. I can’t seem to concentrate on anything. I’m trying to get caught up on a bible study that I am doing with a friend. I’m a few days behind because I just couldn’t focus or think. And when I get home from work at night I’m so tired I don’t want to think. (I work as a medical assistant. And though my job is not physically demanding, it is mentally demanding.)

    Each day is a struggle to get up, go to work and get everything else done. Luckily I don’t have small children anymore. My daughter is 18 and will be moving out at the end of the school year. My husband tries to be understanding. And he does help at times.

    Hang in there dear. There are people who understand what it is you are feeling and dealing with. Thank you for opening up and sharing your story. “Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work: If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up!” Ephesians 4:9-10.
    Linda Whitworth recently posted…Good Morning Girls Devotional: Week 5 Our FriendshipsMy Profile

    • Linda, Thank you for sharing some of your struggles as well. I have been encouraged by others like you who understand what it is like. After I wrote this post I started feeling like I was falling backwards again but I am finally making some steps to get some help to get myself on the road to recovery – physically, emotionally and spiritually.

  6. […] Rest for the Weary – My Struggle with Rest @ Joyful Thrifty Home. This is post from my friend Ashley is beautiful and honest. […]

  7. […] back into bed and avoid it? I’ve had some of those lately. If you remember from my first Rest for the Weary post you know that I’ve been struggling a lot. Since I wrote that post, I was feeling like […]

  8. […] you are just too down right tired and worn out to do anything, and you know what? That is okay. For more about this check out my new post on […]

  9. […] of stress from not being able to sleep well. It seemed like a vicious cycle of stress, anxiety and lack of rest. I am definitely ready to put this winter behind me and keep moving […]

  10. I have been struggling lately with depression, anxiety, fatigue and believe it is due to adrenal exhaustion. Look into some info about adrenal glands and adrenal fatigue and see if any of the symptoms are similar to what you are going through. Hope this helps!

  11. […] again? Deep down I knew that God would provide but after that day I began to deal with increased anxiety, something I still struggle with to this […]

  12. […] I know that when I am exhausted, those are the times I need to hear from him most because exhaustion often leads to frustration, guilt, depression and anxiety. He desires to offer comfort and peace especially when you are weary. […]

 Leave a Reply



CommentLuv badge

Hide me
Subscribe to Joyful Thrifty Home
Email Address First Name
Show me